So I surprised myself a couple of weeks ago when I discovered this Zipper outside my window, and couldn’t bring myself to kill it.
This one is a baby…if the neighbors leave it alone, it could grow to be a few inches in diameter (including the legs) before the season is out. The name “Zipper” comes from the way they repair their webs (more info on Wikipedia). Why would someone who hates spiders allow this thing to continue to exist?
Well, for one thing, I’ve noticed that since Zippy showed up, there are fewer wasps and hornets around here. It could be a coincidence, but I’m willing to wait it out and see what happens. I’m even more scared of wasps and hornets than I am of spiders.
But the main reason I can’t kill this spiders is that my 80 year old Mother absolutely LOVES this type of spider. She almost cried, and said she would take care of it herself if I would just let the thing live. She says they are beautiful, and they help maintain the balance in the bug population. More importantly she assures me they have NO interest whatsoever in crawling inside my home and they don’t bite people. According to Mom (who I trust a lot more than Wikipedia), all this baby wants to do is stay in its web and eat bugs. So far, Mom has been correct. Every time I’ve walked by this web, the spider has been in it, and I watched it kill two very large bugs while I was taking this photo.
This is one very lucky spider, because I’m not going to do anything intentionally that would make my Mother cry.
So this is me…for the first time in my life…making peace with a…huge SPIDER?!
I NEVER thought I would be writing that, but it got me thinking about some other scary-ass things in life that I’ve had to make peace with, such as:
- Living alone – probably for the rest of my life
- Deaths of numerous family members and friends
- Coping with depression, ADHD, and social anxiety, prescription-free
- Numerous life and career transitions with no guarantees
We’ve all been there, right? Sometimes we just have to choose out battles.